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Amy’s Story: Miscarriage Support Episode 2 of 4

Posted on October 26, 2017

My name is Amy Davis and I have been married for 13 years, with 4 children. I was a practicing mental health therapist, but I have been a stay-at-home mom since my third child was born in 2012 with special needs. Though I’m taking a break at the moment, I also share my best savings and frugal living tips on my blog at www.slayyourbudget.com. When I’m not cooking, cleaning or folding my 900^th load of laundry, I enjoy reading Christian romance novels, binge watching Billions and watching my big girls kick butt in basketball.

Since my miscarriage in 2014, I found out I was pregnant again just one week before the due date of my miscarried baby. This greatly helped when that date rolled around and the depressive feelings set in.

In a surprising revelation, it was also determined that my due date with my rainbow baby was October 14, 2015. This is significant to me because it is in fact, my birthday! I never would have imagined that my fourth and final baby would be the most perfect little boy (the first three are girls and we always kept the gender of our babies a surprise) indeed born on his due date, on my birthday! How could that be anything but God?! The atmosphere in that delivery room was indescribable. I was joy-filled and crying, praising and thanking God.

I may still not understand His plan, but my faith is strong. I think of the baby I lost often. I still wonder and play the “what if” game; it’s natural I think. But I’m so thankful for my sweet Luca and can’t imagine our family without him.

In the time after my miscarriage, music greatly helped in the journey through my grief. Christian artist Plumb has many songs that were particularly poignant including my favorite, Need You Now. I also journaled my thoughts and relied on Bible verses like Isaiah 41:10, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”

We also chose to memorialize our baby as a family by writing messages on mylar balloons (I hear paper lanterns may be a more environmentally friendly/animal safe option now), praying over them and releasing them to Heaven. This gave us some sense of closure and a way to say goodbye to the baby we never got to meet.

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Bible Verses: Isaiah 41:10, Jeremiah 29:11
Here’s a link to the miscarriage ornament the ladies recieved at the end of the video. This beautiful glass ornament is a wonderful memorial piece for those who have lost a child.
Song: Need You Now by Plumb

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Ministering to Women Who Suffered A Miscarriage

Posted on October 10, 2017

Did you know that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in a miscarriage? Did you know that when I experienced my miscarriage I didn’t know of anyone who had experienced a miscarriage? How is it possible that 25% of pregnancies end in a miscarriage and yet I knew of no one?

Probably because all of those women did the same thing I did and didn’t tell anyone about it.

Why? Why isn’t it talked about more? Why aren’t the babies lives acknowledged and grieved by friends and family? Why aren’t the mother’s surrounded with love and prayers for their loss and broken heart? Why do mother’s carry this burden alone, quietly, and in secret?

I know why I didn’t talk about it. I didn’t talk about it because I didn’t think others would understand. I felt silly grieving so deeply over a person I never met. Peoples reactions seemed to cheapen my pain and it just wasn’t worth it. But you know who would have understood my pain…another women who experienced the same loss, the same lonely grieving, the same frustration, confusion, and helplessness.

I was in my kitchen doing dishes this past summer and God gave me an assignment.

“Create a place where women can go and know they aren’t alone. Give them a community who can grieve with them, pray for them, and encourage them. Be a resource of good and helpful information during such a confusing time. Show them my true character of love, faithfulness, and goodness and how to reconcile that with personal heartache.”

I reached out to several other women and came up with a group of three others who were willing to help me with this project. We spent a Sunday afternoon together having lunch, sharing our stories, and expressing our willingness to minister to other women who are hurting and need healing from their loss.

Our goals were aligned, to give our pain purpose by ministering to other woman who suffered a loss during pregnancy and point them to Jesus. It’s during trials that our faith is truly tested. Each of these women have powerful stories about how their faith was tested and the ways God spoke to them during their miscarriage.

Over the next 4 weeks I will release a blog post each week with the full interview from each of these amazing women. Each story is unique in its own way so I hope many women can relate to the various experiences. We are excited to share this with you and we pray it heals broken hearts.

Here is the ‘trailer’ and sneak peak of the powerful stories you will hear over the next four weeks.